“Search Party” is the newest painting in my “Large Events” series, an ongoing exploration in my art studio. Measuring eight by six feet, it slowly developed over several months, growing with each return to the canvas. The abstraction reveals layers of complexity, yet also reflects the patience and uncertainty that come with a gradual, evolving process. As with life, I believe art isn't meant to be understood at a glance. So often, it seems, the art world comes around to claim

As the days grow shorter and colder, fall invites us to slow down, turn inward, and nurture ourselves. Now is the perfect time to treat your body and spirit to deep relaxation, and I’d love to welcome you back to my massage table for a 60- or 90-minute hot oil massage. Hot oil massage is more than a luxury—it’s a powerful way to care for your muscles and nervous system. Warm oil seeps into tired muscles, melting away tension and helping your whole body unwind. It’s a full sen

In recent years, meditation has gained widespread attention for cultivating calm, focus, and well-being. Yet beyond these immediate benefits, meditation—especially as taught in many Eastern esoteric traditions—serves a deeper purpose: clearing clutter from the subconscious mind. Through silence and stillness, the meditator creates inner space, giving the subconscious time to cleanse and preventing overload. This clearing is vital for personal balance and, as our society faces

I’m a Gen X man, and like most of the guys I know, I’ve spent a lifetime watching the rules of manhood change under my feet. Every ten or fifteen years, it seems like what it means to "be a man" is up for grabs again. Most of us never got much guidance—just a shrug and a "you’ll figure it out." Whether we’re gay, bi, or straight, we end up facing a lot of the same confusion and loneliness, secretly wishing for a deeper sense of connection. We grew up being told to be tough, k

After 20+ years at the massage table, I’m lucky to spend most of my days with people I’ve gotten to know well—some for months, some for years, and a few for over a decade. This Monday was a highlight: I got to reconnect with a longtime client and welcome someone brand new. Both new and returning clients keep my work fresh and exciting. I often compare massage to going on a hike. This comes from a favorite book from my study days—A Trail Guide to the Body—which I still use tod

In all my practices, my energy ebbs and flows. In massage, I float between modalities; in my men's work, I explore a multitude of feelings, emotions, bodies, and desires; and in my visual art practice, I express myself in a variety of mediums. Last night, I walked back into my art studio after a one-month absence. This always happens with me—I work in my art studio when I feel most in line with that energy. I had done a series of drawings at the end of the summer that lay nea

Last night, I had a wonderful opportunity to share massage and touch with a group of amazing men. Seven of us gathered to help one another and ourselves relax, unwind, feel our bodies deeply, and share in the magic only human-to-human touch can create. As I delve further into my studio practice on men’s wellness, poring over podcasts and diving into books, my algorithm is bombarded daily with an overwhelming amount of information. For those who know me—and for those who don’t

Yesterday, while working with a new client during our first massage together, I was struck—as I often am—by how intimate massage is. By "intimate," I mean how deeply personal, one-on-one, and completely human this incredibly healing act can be. Usually, it’s just two—maybe three if you're lucky—people taking time out of an increasingly chaotic life to simply be present. We rarely allow ourselves uninterrupted time to simply exist, without any agenda. Massage offers this uniqu

I'm excited to share that I've just completed an immersive two-day Lomi Lomi Hawaiian temple bodywork training, bringing fresh inspiration, new techniques, and a deeper appreciation for this beautiful healing tradition. Moving forward, I'll be weaving elements of Lomi Lomi into my massage sessions, allowing you to experience the unique flow, warmth, and heart of this Hawaiian practice firsthand. Lomi Lomi, meaning "to rub, knead, or soothe," is a sacred Hawaiian modality pass

I’m always eager to learn new skills, and after over 20 years as a massage therapist, I’ve found myself in some pretty interesting continuing education workshops! This week, I’m diving into lomi lomi—a traditional Hawaiian style and approach to bodywork. I know little about this approach and am excited to learn the details. I originally studied massage at the old-school Swedish Institute, before its corporate takeover. Back then, I was transported into a world of deep knowled

What I love most about massage and bodywork tutorials is their depth. The moment one lies on the massage table with the awareness that they are now not only receiving but also learning, things change; a door opens, and every possible human dynamic becomes a part of the experience, a path to investigate and an opertunity to learn what touch between two consenting adults can manifest. If you think about it, touch encompasses such a wide variety of human experience Just last w

I ended a blog post the other day by saying, "Smile at someone today—the world needs simple kindness more than anything right now." That statement really got me thinking. As the rapidly advancing algorithmic world takes hold and we’re pulled in countless directions by overwhelming issues, it’s easy to feel individually lost—and when that happens on a mass scale, collective craziness skyrockets. I know I can get caught up in the endless mind game of, “How can I do anything to

Before I start, I have to say an icon of mine left us yesterday! I will always love you, Dolly! Yesterday, I spent a glorious day at Gunnison Beach soaking up the sun, sand, waves, dolphins, and—yes—the naked people all around! It’s one of my favorite places because I love seeing the human body in its natural element. What fascinates me most are the postures and how time and habits shape the bodies we grow old with. The variety is just incredible! That old motto, "use it or l

Yesterday, I had the privilege of giving two incredible coconut oil massages to two wonderful men. While I followed a similar protocol with each, the experiences were uniquely extraordinary. As men, we share a common anatomy, yet every body is distinct, and that diversity is what keeps me passionate about men’s massage. Each person brings their own energy and story to the table, making every session vibrant and new. The atmosphere is always serene—dim lights, soothing energy,

As late summer approaches, the body can feel the strain from long days and persistent heat, often accompanied by a drop in energy. Many men notice increased shoulder tension, more pronounced lower back pain, lighter sleep, and a need for a reset. A massage during this period serves as a pause, helping the body recover from summer activities such as outdoor work, exercise, and travel. Late summer demands more from the body By the end of summer, the combination of increased act

The sunlight still glows, the air starts to change, and your body can sense a shift before the calendar catches up. Energy feels vibrant—if a bit scattered. Sleep gets lighter, cravings shift toward simpler foods, and your whole system—skin, muscles, and mood—seems ready for a fresh start. It’s a powerful moment to slow down, tune in, and really listen to what your body needs. A late summer reset doesn’t have to be intense. Your body already knows how to cleanse itself throug

Let’s talk about something that’s close to my heart (and skin): the art of bodywork! Helping men truly connect with their bodies is one of my greatest joys. There’s nothing quite like witnessing that moment when someone melts into the magic of touch—whether it’s pure relaxation or electrifying stimulation, bodywork is full of surprises and delights. The other day, during a lively chat with my massage partner, we dove into the differences between classic, one-way massage and t

Somewhere in the 50s, life can get strangely quiet, even when nothing is wrong. The job is handled. The bills are handled. The phone is always nearby. The routines are familiar enough to run on their own. There may be no major crisis, no medical scare, no family drama that cannot be managed. Just work, errands, food, sleep, scrolling, a little pleasure, a little news, and the current political shit show humming in the background. From the outside, this can look like stability

The best conversations in bodywork do not always happen before the session starts. Sometimes they happen afterward, when someone sits up slowly, takes a breath, and tries to put words to what their body already figured out. That happened to me in Provincetown this past week, on my annual trip to the beach. I met and worked with a man just two years older than me. The session was great; the conversation after stayed with me. He said there was something different about working

Massage is much like yoga; both practices evolve and transmit through the unique energy of the practitioner. When I trained to be a Kundalini yoga teacher, I learned that the power of the teachings lives within the teachings themselves. The key is to practice personally, clear your own channels, and allow the teachings to flow through you with clarity as you guide others. This same principle applies beautifully to massage—when we remain present and open, the session becomes m